So, yes it’s me, the H in MDH.

I’m not sure how much I can bring to the conversation at this point. Most of the hard work since our initial consultations has been done by MLW. My role has been one of emotional support. The nurse at yesterday’s scan did say that the drugs have gotten better, and the risk of mood altering side effects is quite low. This does seem to be the case for us too.

MLW has been quite concerned with the results of the current drug regimen, which has had its ups and downs. The hardest point for me, though, was the hepatitis scare at the very start. This was one of the most stressful few weeks we’ve experienced together. As we had been unable to conceive naturally, there was a distinct possibility that this roadblock could mean we’d never have children. There were also the greater health concerns for my wife and our life together – even prospective kids were not as important as that to me. Happily that was resolved, and we could move on with our treatment.

As I said, I’ve only been a supporting actor so far, and I do feel a little guilt that I’ve not had much to do. I wish I could accompany MLW to more of her hospital appointments, but working in London means that I’d have to take holiday time off that could be more wisely used later. Work has been very understanding when I have taken time off, and I’ve tried to keep them aware when I might have to take short notice holidays or rearrange things. This will definitely be the case as we look towards egg and sperm collection within the coming weeks. 

I suspect the emotional roller coaster is really going to begin after implantation – I am trying to remain realistic about our chances, and we may have to remain strong for each other. We are quite lucky that we will get three attempts at this. I know others who were only allowed one or two tries, and were unsuccessful. I also know one other couple who were successful first time round. It’s a real lottery, both geographically and anatomically.

That’s my perspective, and I’m sure I’ll be roped in to talk to you later.

‘MDH’